The Stepford Wives: by Pilar Stevens

Posted: May 14, 2013 by Josh Kwasny in Drama, Guest Post
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Stepford 2004My daughter and I caught this on TV the other night (really the only way to watch it do to some language and rude humor.) This film has sparked a great series of conversations about self-image, what a perfect woman looks like and how the world’s view of womanhood is the total opposite of the Bible’s.

Joanna Eberhart (Nicole Kidman) is a successful TV producer who loses her job and has a nervous breakdown. To help her recovery, her husband Walter (Matthew Broderick) moves the family from Manhattan to Stepford, a quiet suburb in Connecticut.

Stepford turns out to be THE perfect town in America from white picket fences, lovely neighbors, community events and centers of entertainment. Who would not love to live there? Joanna. How would you like to live in a town where every woman looks like Barbie? (Sorry Barbie.)  And you don’t. Oh wait, we already do.

Working with the young ladies at church has made me realize that many of our young ladies have bought the media lie. You are only beautiful if you look like ______________ (you can fill in the blank.) I feel like I have done a bad job at tackling this issue with not only my own daughter but the girls at church. Some girls REALLY believe that beauty is only skin deep and they are will to go to extreme lengths to change everything and anything necessary to fit the world idea of beauty.

Like Joanna, they too feel like second class citizens because of the way they look. Should Christian girls judge themselves by the world standards? Is the Bible silent on this? No, God’s Word is not silent. We read in Proverbs 31 that the “perfect woman/wife” has many character qualities but all we read about her appearance is a warming “charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Prov. 31:30.) Did you read that part? Beauty is vain. We all wrinkle. We all go grey. We are all too fat, too thin, too tall or too short. Should our imperfect frame dictate how we feel about ourselves? Should we punish ourselves because of our imperfections?

Joanna found out that the women she was comparing herself to were robots. Imagine that! Trying to compete with a machine, trying to compete with something that has been airbrushed and re-shaped to perfection. Oh wait, we are doing that.

“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.  My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.” Psalms 139:13-15 (ESV)


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