Twilight: Fantasy is Dangerous

Posted: November 16, 2012 by Josh Kwasny in Action, Adventure, Drama, Romance
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I am fairly confident that Twilight would not make the top 10 list of “manly movies.” Most men don’t even like to admit they have seem them. They will swear that they only went to the theater or rented these romantic films because their girlfriend or wife made them. Whatever the case, women and men will see this final theatric installment of Stephenie Meyer’s vampire novels.

Whether you are a die-hard fan or a “hater,” Twilight reminds us that fantasy is dangerous.

After reading the first book (yes, I read it) I had mixed emotions. The story is an interesting one. Meyer’s spin on vampire lore is creative to say the least – even biblical. Often the most dangerous things appear the most appealing. In the book of Proverbs we read about the seductive woman. She is depicted as enticing, but ultimately deadly to the man who visits her. The vampires of the Twilight saga are like this – alluring, but hazardous to one’s life.

Like the Meyer vampires, Twilight itself is dangerous. I have and will continue to refer to this story (and all romance novels) as women’s pornography. Twilight is dangerous because, like a pornographic magazine, it presents a false reality – a fantasy world.

[Fellas bear with me, I am risking my “man card” here, I know.]

Many of the women that love this story, love it because of Edward (sorry all you in “Team Jacob”). Men – we can learn something from Edward. Women love Edward because he is eternally faithful. His love for Bella (although definitely undeserved) is unmatched. He is a selfless servant – relentless in his care for her. We should take at least a couple notes from the Edward playbook. We can all use a bit more compassion, selflessness, and fearlessness in our relationships. Superpowers wouldn’t hurt either, of course.

Herein lies the problem. Edward doesn’t exist!! Yes, men could stand to be more sensitive and intentional in their care of their spouses or girlfriends, but come on! How high are you going to set the bar? A powerful, sensitive, vampire-man? He even glows for goodness sake!

Fantasy is dangerous because, if it becomes our reality, it will set us up for failure and disappointment. Ladies, the best men in the world, do not stand a chance against the “Edward” (or Jacob) of you mind. I am not saying that you should stop praying for a man who will treat you right. Pray for that man. But pray for a man who will also repent when he sins against you (which he will). Pray that you will be able to forgive (Colossians 3:13) and overlook the offenses (Proverbs 19:11) of the imperfect man in your life.

Fellas, this goes both ways. Porn is dangerous and destructive for many reasons – not in the least being that it presents you with a false sense of reality. The airbrushed women seduce you to a world that will kill you. They look at you as though you can have what you want, with no responsibility and no consequences. Porn objectifies women and minimizes the image of God to a mere body. Porn deadens you to the beauty and wonder of marriage to one woman. Porn makes you lazy, selfish, and demanding. No wonder why women choose fantasy over the real thing!

We live in a world where the lines between fantasy and reality are blurred. May God give us discernment to recognize the danger of living in a world that doesn’t exist.


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